To Settle Or Not To Settle?

Posted by Lemery Reyes at 12:00 PM | 1 comment | Permalink

As young women, we're faced with choices on a daily basis: What am I going to wear today, do I have enough time to eat a good breakfast, will the bus arrive on time, will I be late for work, do I have enough money to do laundry or can I make it to class on time?

But what about choices that deal with matters of the heart? For me, the ideal relationship is one where you actually enjoy the other person's presence, have chemistry, can laugh or cry together and have deep conversations about life. Maybe that's just what I look for in a partner as do many of my 20-something friends. For us, having a boyfriend or a girlfriend is not a big deal — we have our careers to focus on and the rest of our lives to find that special someone.

But if it were up to author Lori Gottlieb, we would all have a life partner, even if we don't really like them. Gottlieb is the author of "Marry Him!", an article in The Atlantic that has sparked a national debate on whether women need men to survive in life. According to Gottlieb, women should just settle down and marry any available person before it is too late and we end up like her: a single 40-year-old parent who has to juggle a career and a child all by herself.

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